A few days ago, I read this fascinating article: An Ivy League Professor Says There Are Only Three Types of Friendships We Make.
Basically, the results of the study they conducted deduced that we all structure our social connections in one of three ways. We are either:
Tight-Knitters – You have one close group of friends, who all know each other.
Compartmentalizers – You have different groups of friends, who help you with different needs (like work related advice or gossip seshs about dating).
Samplers – You tend to have one-on-one friendships, rather than a group of friends.
I’m definitely a sampler. But I hate that name! It makes it seem like I’m testing out different types of people or ordering a sampler tapas place at a Spanish restaurant.
The truth is, I just like to have depth of connection and I find that in one-on-one interactions. The article mentions that samplers can feel socially isolated at points, and I absolutely have felt that. It’s hard to feel like your friends don’t know each other and there’s also such a great sense of community in a group of friends. I remember watching the TV show “How I Met Your Mother” and feeling down that I didn’t have a group like there.
So. Which type of friend maker are you?