Do you online date? I’m in a long-term relationship, so it’s been nearly 6 years since I was actively dating. But at that time, I remember using OkCupid, Nerve, and eHarmony when I was online dating. I would be psyched to email with someone cool, but sometimes they would say something that would throw me off (“Just so you know, I’m into cosplay. Cool?” or “I don’t believe in bathing more than once a month”) or they would simply ghost on me and disappear into the ether. I had the best luck with OkCupid, but even then, I’d email for awhile with a guy, and then I would get too scared to meet them in person. So I’d often just keep delaying actually meeting up. Once, I even cancelled a date day-of. I was the worst, flakiest version of myself. I did meet a few guys in person but it was always hours of anxiety beforehand that was only bearable in the right circumstances.
In an earlier post, Laura talked about the dating site Tinder and how there was backlash to their new pricing system. (They’re basically charging people over 30 a higher rate. Boo!) Anyway, there was some controversy with one of Tinder’s co-founders, Whitney Wolfe, below, who left the company after she initiated a sexual harassment and workplace discrimination lawsuit. (All fair, in my opinion.)
Whitney Wolfe has recently gone ahead and co-founded an app called Bumble. It’s a new dating app that hopes to empower women in dating. Whitney herself said, “Bumble is something that can give women power and also take the pressure off men. We wanted to even the playing field a little bit.” So how exactly does Bumble do that?
- Only WOMEN can initiate contact.
- Women must reply to their matches within 24 hours or the matches disappear.
- The target demographic is women from the ages of 18-35.
I’ll be honest – I’m intrigued. So often we’re taught that the men should initiate contact when it comes to dating. Even I still assume a man should initiate contact with a woman. I don’t know why, but I always just feel as though “If he likes me enough, he’ll reach out and find me.” What, am I encouraging stalking or something? Jeez. But I’m starting to challenge my own beliefs, because what is all that mumbo jumbo “The Rules” type-stuff even based on?
What do you think? Is Bumble something you’d try?